In My Room is about the random thoughts I have, you guessed it, in my room! Here, I share my ideas and questions around identity, adulting, relationships, and mental health - with a sprinkle of chisme because who doesn’t love some tea?
Happy new year, friends! I hope you’re all taking care of yourselves and that your 2022 is off to a good start. While I like to pretend that the start of a new year isn’t a big deal because time is a social construct, the truth is I get really excited about it. So much can happen in a year and I love to think about the endless possibilities. I’m not the same person I was this time last year and I’m looking forward to how much more I will learn and grow.
But I have had a love/hate relationship with resolutions. When I was younger, I used to make a list of resolutions that often involved wanting to be someone I wasn’t. I’d be sad and disappointed when the things I hoped for didn’t end up happening. I resented the idea of resolutions, believing they were silly and their only purpose was making you feel bad about where you currently are.
The Virgo in me on the other hand, LOVES a fresh start and making a list of items to check off, so I had to learn to make this resolutions thing work for me. Instead of looking at these goals as items I need to accomplish in order to be a better me, I’ve decided to set intentions. Setting intentions takes away the pressure and leaves room for days when I don’t have the energy or willpower to be my “best self.” Intentions also allow flexibility because six months from now I may want something entirely different for myself or my life may be in a different place.
The beginning of a new year feels like the right time to check in with myself and reflect on the way I’ve been living. I can choose to change everything or I can choose to change nothing at all. What’s most important is that my intentions align with bringing peace and joy into my life. So in the spirit of a new year, I’ve decided to share my intentions for 2022.
This year I want to…
Quit - doubting myself
Learn - a new language
Try - new food
Have - more confidence
Start - moving my body daily
Continue to - write and go to therapy
Stop - demanding perfection from myself and others
Be - evolving
I recognize that some of these intentions will be a lifetime effort, but I’d like to at least start and/or continue that journey.
And for all of you reading this, I hope that you are gentle with yourself and treat yourself with kindness instead of like a project that needs to be completed.
“There is no rhyme or reason; your purpose is only to experience.”
Here are five things I learned in 2021:
A job is just a job. Your wellbeing is more important.
You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themself.
Realizing you’re not ready for something doesn’t mean you failed— you don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
The closure comes from within.
Your life is your story. Make it an interesting one.
Well, that’s all for now! Thanks for tuning in to my newsletter. I hope you’ll stick around for more. Besos!